Man Eaters and Wimpy Guys

Girls, Are You a Man Eater? Guys, Are You Too Wimpy to Resist Them?

Soon after the young lady sets her Bible and sweater down on the sofa to reserve her place to sit, a young man sits down next to her belongings. Across the room "The Man Eater" watches intently on who is sitting next to whom; she quickly goes into the "power walk mode" to discreetly push over the young lady's sweater and purse, and plop herself down next to this young man. She flatters with obnoxious giggles, sighs, and flirtatious gestures; he eats up the attention, as he remains on the sofa next to The Man Eater. She continues her pursuant ploy and strategic hunt while leaving the other young lady to find a seat some other place. This is the way of the Man Eater.

So, of course, many of you guys are probably thinking you would never do that and allow such impertinent behavior. But, guys, do you allow similar "smaller" things like this to happen? Do you know how to recognize a "strange woman"? Do you know how to take a stand? Are you man enough to have the willpower to walk away from those temptations when they arise? Or do you sit there and eat up the attention just so it will boost your ego for a while?

What does the Bible say about this?

Proverbs 6:20 & 24-25 "My son, keep your father's command, and do not forsake the law of your mother. Bind them continually upon your heart...... to keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids."

Prov. 6:28 "Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals and his feet not be seared?"

Prov. 5:3-4 "For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey and her mouth is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood."

Prov. 7:1 & 5 "My son, keep my words, and treasure my commands within you......that they may keep you from the immoral woman, from the seductress who flatters with her words."

Prov. 4:23 "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life."
Prov. 2:11 "Discretion will preserve you; understanding will keep you, to deliver you from the way of evil."
Prov. 27:12 "A prudent man forsees evil and hides himself..."

Guys, I want to encourage you as a sister in Christ to learn to recognize a "strange" woman when you see one. Don't lead her on in any way. They will say and do just about anything to get your attention. I've seen it many times where girls know how to "talk the talk" and seem to be a wonderful godly young lady on the outside just to impress a certain guy. But you must learn how to recognize this when it's not genuine! A great way when you're unsure is to ask your mom, sister or some mature Godly woman who is able to discern and pick up on these characteristics. Usually they will be able to recognize this much better then any guy can. Realize, that if you give a girl an inch, (ie: asking a lot questions, talking to her a bit much, being too friendly, etc.) she'll take a yard because in her eyes you've given her the green light. Sometimes you may have to even be what may seem to you, downright rude to her, if need be; although most of the time you can back off in a polite way.

Instead, turn your attention to pure chaste young women who don't run after every guy they see. Be observant, have discretion, and keep your heart with all diligence. A godly, pure, chaste young woman will not chase after you or try to take the lead in a friendship or relationship. Instead, they will appreciate a godly young man who will pursue them. If a young woman is trying to pursue you, take caution, use wisdom and run the other way. You're future wife will be most appreciative of that one day and you will be appreciative later of the trouble you were saved from!


Alright girls, now it's time for us to talk! Are you a "Man Eater"? I know this may be an extreme example in the short story above and maybe you think you aren't THAT obvious or as bad as that "Man Eater", but do you have those tendencies? The above example is actually a true example of what we have seen done! Do you try to chase after every cute or intriguing guy you see? Do you always congregate with the guys at social gatherings every chance you get? Do you try to pursue them? By that, I don't mean obvious pursuing like calling a guy and asking him out or something, (although you should never do that) but what about in smaller ways that seem less obvious or harmful? Like emailing, calling, always commenting, (ie: blog, facebook, etc.) and initiating IM convos without a reason? And, are we helping them guard their hearts by knowingly sending them flirtations gestures? Are you a pure chaste young woman a godly guy would want to pursue?

Proverbs 31:12 hit me when it said "She does him good and not evil ALL the days of her life." Wow, that's powerful. Girls, are we doing or saying anything now that we would be ashamed of telling our husbands one day?

Prov. 4:23 "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life."

Prov. 31:26 "She opens her mouth with wisdom and on her tongue is the law of kindness."

Prov. 11:16 " A gracious woman retains honor, but ruthless men retain riches."

Prov. 9:13 "A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple and knoweth nothing.

Prov. 31:30 "Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord she shall be praised."

Prov. 2:11 "Discretion will preserve you; understanding will keep you, to deliver you from the way of evil."


Girls, we must be the kind of young woman a godly guy will want to pursue. As my parents always say, "you get what you're fishing for." In other words, who you are now and what you want to become, is who will be attracted to you.

I also want to tell you girls that just because a godly guy gives a sincere compliment as a brother in Christ trying to encourage his sister in Christ, don't automatically assume that he likes you! When we do this, guys are scared to ever give a sincere compliment to a girl! Something that has helped me, is that I try not to think of any guy more than total friends unless he clearly states otherwise. Accept the compliment, appreciate it, and move on! Don't go day dreaming about the guy and start figuring out what color brides maid dresses you want! Seriously, I know some girls like this! Guard your thoughts and mind. If you're having trouble with this, ask the Lord to take away these thoughts and stay away from anything you can that would remind you of this certain someone.

There is so much more I could say about this subject, but this will have to be enough for now. If you have any questions on something I said, let me know and I will try to clarify or help best I can!

I pray we will all grow and mature into godly men and woman who would glorify the Lord and learn how to respect and honor your future spouse by "doing [them] good and not evil ALL the days of your life!" (Prov. 31:12)

With prayers and blessings,
~Michelle